Assert Yourself!

Do you have trouble saying no? Do you often find yourself doing things for others that you  wish you weren’t doing? Have you identified yourself as a ‘people pleaser’? If so, you are not  alone. In my work as a psychotherapist the number one handout that folks have been getting over the years is ‘the assertiveness formula’.

A few years ago, Dr. Karen Black of Hartford Hospital was listed as a Top 10 Psychiatrist in the Hartford Magazine. She was quoted as saying the most important thing she teaches her clients for their mental health is assertiveness. This formula for expressing ourselves looks simple at first, but it is much harder to incorporate into our daily communication than it looks.  I like to suggest writing it out for practice, and to say to folks- ‘I’m practicing my assertiveness formula, so I want to let you know…  “This is how I see it…” “This is how it makes me feel…” “This is what I need from you…”.


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About cmattingly100

Hello, I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in private practice since 1999. I have served hundreds of adults with general mental health, addiction, and spirituality concerns. I am the creator of Celestial Psychology, which incorporates energy medicine specifically, The Reconnection into conventional talk therapy. The two books I completed for Celestial Psychology are available on Amazon http://ow.ly/sSggQ. I am the founder of The Sanctuary for Celestial Empowerment and have blogs for both. My main site is also a WP site, celestemattinglylcsw.com looking forward to getting to know you.
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