Approval

“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.” -Mark Twain [1] (Twain was a Hartford resident for 17 years! Have you toured his home, lately?)

Many years ago, when my brother Jim and I were in our late teens and we learned about the powerful and potentially debilitating drive for approval, we somehow imagined a light bulb over our heads with a chain hanging below our chins. Pulling the imaginary string and lighting the imaginary bulb while making silly faces and declaring, “approval, approval” became our cue for stopping ourselves short with the people pleasing process. To this day, when I find my chain being pulled I get that image and ask myself what I am really trying to prove… whose approval do I really want or need? The bottom line answer is always as Twain implies- my own is all that matters.


[1] Believing In Myself, by Earnie Larsen & Carol Hegarty, p. October 24. Simon & Schuster, NY 1991.

 

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About cmattingly100

Hello, I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in private practice since 1999. I have served hundreds of adults with general mental health, addiction, and spirituality concerns. I am the creator of Celestial Psychology, which incorporates energy medicine specifically, The Reconnection into conventional talk therapy. The two books I completed for Celestial Psychology are available on Amazon http://ow.ly/sSggQ. I am the founder of The Sanctuary for Celestial Empowerment and have blogs for both. My main site is also a WP site, celestemattinglylcsw.com looking forward to getting to know you.
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